That Somebody?
Is you.
Stop fighting with yourself. Stop telling yourself you’ll make changes tomorrow. Stop trying to come up with some excuse about how you need to take care of (insert family member, friend, boss, church function, random stranger on the street here) first before you can even begin to think about taking care you you.
Stop complicating your life.
It can be so easy to just throw our hands up and resolve ourselves to being unhappy. Accepting the fact that we will never be able to take the time to lose the weight, work through the depression, make the changes necessary for living the life we so desperately want and need (and deserve).
Often times we point our fingers outwards. We blame the external relationships or environment from keeping us from reaching our full potential, from making the small changes that lead to the bigger changes that lead to a life full of excitement and new discoveries. That finger that you’re pointing outward and blaming everyone else?…
Point it inward.
Stop hurting yourself. Fuck, go to the mirror right now and touch a part of your body you hate and tell yourself that you’re going to stop hurting yourself. Start learning to love everything about you. EVERYTHING. I only say this because I struggle on a daily basis to love all parts of me. I will think something good about myself and then immediately bash that good thought over the head with the sledge hammer of “but I hate this about myself”.
So frustrating.
So complicating.
So unfair.
We look to our external environment for the excuses we need so that we don’t have to look to the real reason we’re not making the changes (we deserve): We are afraid to look internally at the necessary changes. Needing to lose over 100 pounds, needing to end a relationship that we’re unhappy in, wanting to be more and do more but afraid to take that first flight of stairs.
Afraid of the potential.
Afraid of leaving the known.
Afraid of facing the unknown.
It’s time to take that long hard look at yourself. It’s time to tell yourself that the only reason you haven’t made the much deserved change or lost the “mojo” to continue making the progress you were is because of you. Not because of (insert family member, friend, boss, church function, random stranger on the street here) and then do something you probably haven’t done in a long time…
High five yourself.
You’re fucking amazing.
I just high fived myself. Twice. and now I have some shit to get to done!
Awesome-sauce reminders of what’s really important right there. xo
This was exactly what I needed to read today. Thank you.
Thank you for speaking the words my heart was afraid to hear. this post reached me at the perfect moment.
Thank you so much for this Tara! *high fives* all around!
LOVE ALL OF THIS. You’re the one that’s fucking amazing. Keep on keepin’ on, lady.
I love you…..
Been ruminating (hell, marinating) in that funk for quite some time; all or nothing ain’t cutting it, but I guess slow and steady is better than nothing…. Thank you for your words Tara
AMEN!!! Excellent post. You are F’N AMAZING!!!
While today is more tears than high 5’s thank you I needed to read this
Thank you so much!
I needed to hear these words.
and I needed to high five ME!
*cue tears* I needed to read this today. Actually I should probably read this every day. Thank you.
Thank you for this post. I am pretty fucking amazing, aren’t I? =) And I totally cried when I read Meegan’s post today, too.
Can I get an AMEN?! Nice post. Just what I needed to read today!
You’re awesome, lady!
Wow, you wrote exactly what I need to hear today. Again. You’re amazing and thank you.
Yes, yes, yes!
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Thank you!!!! This is just what I needed to hear today! I am really sturggling with loving myself and starting on the journey to loose nearly 7 stone (100 pounds) that I need to do for my health. This blog post has made me take a step back and look at what I NEED to do for me, not for anyone else!